Does this make me a bad person?

Ok, so I know lots of kinky folk, and the questions that seems to pop up with all of them at some point in their journey of self-discovery, is 'Why do I like this? Am I normal? Am I unhealthy for liking this? What if the reason I like this is rooted in something crazy, sick or makes me a bad person?'

And you know what? I think if you didn't ask yourself those questions at some point, then there might be something to worry about. If you like hurting people, or being hurt, it's normal to ask yourself if it's ok.

I asked myself those questions when I was first starting out, and after thinking up lots of 'reasons' why I might like what I like. I finally came to the conclusion that as long as it's not causing me or my partners any harm, and we're both enjoying it, then it doesn't matter where my kinks stem from. It doesn't have to come from a place of purity etc to be ok, as long as it doesn't harm you.

So I guess I just want to say, to all those people who are questioning why they enjoy something, breathe. It's ok. That fact that you're worrying about it is good, and shows you're a decent person. And as long as you're not harming yourself or your partner (and btw there's a difference between hurt and harm) then you don't need to worry. You and your partner's enjoyment is what matters.