Love shouldn't be something you give to someone only to get something back. I hate it when people say 'I love you' to me, and are obviously expecting me to say it back, because they said it. That's not how love works. When I tell someone I love them, that's all it mean.
"It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you
try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and
the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you
are. You’re a hell of a person." - Joss Whedon
And that doesn't mean that you need to love me. You shouldn't need to feel awkward if you don't. If I tell you I love you, just smile, or say thank you, or just carry on chatting about something else. I won't feel awkward.
I realise I've been guilty of this in the past. Occasionally I've said "I love you" and waited to hear those words in response. I'm sorry to the people I've done this to, for making them feel awkward, or possibly pressured into saying something they didn't feel like saying at the time.
When I tell Azariah I love him, a lot of the time he just smiles and says 'I know', and I like that. I'd like to feel more comfortable doing that myself as well.
I don't necessarily just mean romantic love either. I love a lot of my friends, but I know some people might find it awkward or confused if I told them this. In this society, people don't generally tell their friends that they love them, except in that drunken 'I love you guys!' sort of way.
Well I met a wonderful girl in hospital. We only knew each other for a few days, but we went through a lot together, and as we'd both been through similar situations with our depression we bonded quite quickly. When I left, we hugged a lot, and kissed on the lips, and I can honestly say that I love her. I have seen her at her weakest moments, and seen her strength and kindness. But I didn't feel that I could tell her I loved her in case it made her uncomfortable.
I wish love between friends were less taboo.
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